Monday, May 26, 2014

Aspergers/ Autism is A Neurological way of Being- It does NOT cause Violence



Friends and family tend to shelter me from any news about Aspies/ Autistics committing crimes or being accused of doing them because of their neurological difference. I usually find out anyway, and it's a form of deep prejudice to decide that a crime is based on a neurological wiring. It's like accusing a different race of more crimes...when really demographic, environment, and deep motivation matter more in the long run. All people are in need of help at some point, unfortunately some do not recognize this need themselves and bad things happen. 

People who have "no friends" or are "quiet" tend to get the brunt of accusations in shootings or acts of violence, even when the same acts in history have been committed by people with "many friends" and of whom were "extroverted." It's easier to blame some sort of quirk or point out the less social norms for a reason than to realize that bad things happen to good people or that sometimes something snaps, or that there is not always a clear motive. Susan Cain's book "Quiet"(link) goes a long way in stopping the myths that quiet people are the violent people. Assuming quiet people are the future violent people is another prejudice stereotype that does no one good.

Since I am Autistic/ Aspie I wanted to "normalize" Aspergers/Autism...because there are so many misunderstandings of what it means to be an Aspie/ Autistic. The fact is that sometimes we DO need more help in life in some daily activities due to sensory overload or anxiety or depression or dyspraxia or ADD (each Aspie is different in these traits), however, we give back to the world in ways that are inspiring, artistic, genius, and encouraging in many ways. It's ableist to assume otherwise.

The ways we give back to the world may not be as obvious in day to day life but study a list of renowned Autistics and you will see the varied unique ways we contribute. Like some NT's (not on the spectrum or normal people) there are some violent Aspies...but it is rare, especially considering the population of Aspies as opposed to NT's and the percentage of violence in both categories. The stats speak for themselves. We do have varied forms of meltdowns but most are not meant to harm anyone. In general, Aspies give to the world in unique, funny, refreshing and original ways. We would not be communicating on computers without Aspies. Nor would we enjoy many philosophical debates, beautifully written prose, or humorous antidotes without many Autistics. I feel this must be said because of the recent judgments and misconceptions that have been given to Autistics/Aspies. 

It is very rare for an Autistic to not be safe, innocent and pure of heart. In the news we hear the horror stories but most often, there are other factors at work that should be exposed. The very stats speak for themselves; the number of Autistic people that commit crimes in the overall population of Autistics versus the number of Nuerotypical people that commit crimes in their overall population makes the issue stunningly clear. Autism does not create violence. In any population group, there will be issues but in general, the Aspies I know are trustworthy, kind and considerate. If an Aspie, Introvert, Extrovert or Nuerotypical commits a violent act there are always other factors involved and the wiring of their personality should NEVER be blamed or feared. I do not fear Neurotypicals even though I may not always understand them and they should not fear Autistics. Introverts should not fear Extroverts and Extroverts should not fear Introverts for possible violent crimes. These are ridiculous judgements.

Please check out this post of Famous Aspies, many who had no violent tendencies and contributed positivity to our world (again there are exceptions in ANY people group and these exceptions could be blamed on many differing attributes or causes.)
http://worldwecreate.blogspot.ca/2013/06/famous-people-tv-characters-literary.html

My heart goes out to all the victims of the many crimes around the world, both hidden and publicized. Every day women, children and men are killed intentionally. Some we hear of, most we don't. My heart grieves for the travesty and for the families of both killer and victim. I can't justify violence in my soul or heart. To me it makes no feasible sense. I long to heal the world and I hope by doing my part that I can at least make a little haven of peace somehow in the world I help create.

All any of us can do is be responsible in looking after our own, in this world we help create. You are responsible to be the change you wish to see in the world. You can only do your part and hope to god that mercy and grace will prevail in the end. Always hope but remember that we must make our place better and that change starts within ourselves.

Wishing you peace and healing today;


NOTE: Autism can cause sensory issues or anxiety which can cause meltdowns and outbursts. If there is violence it is due to an environment or something not being addressed with the person- not the actually neurological wiring. Violent outbursts can happen but often are a result of additional issues that need to be solved. To see more on meltdowns click here: http://worldwecreate.blogspot.ca/2014/07/dealing-with-and-understanding.html



This is by Samantha and SO good for Aspergirls. I would highly recommend for any who wish to understand women and autism to listen while doing chores or watch during downtime:


4 comments:

Anonymous said...

You know, I may be wrong but I have a theory that perhaps autistics/ aspies are bullied the most and that is why they may get sensory overload and may turn violent or abusive towards not only towards their perpetrators but also towards their "own self ".
I am not saying that only autistic people turn violent -anybody may turn violent because of abuse but also autistic people because they have a ' lower level of tolerance' ( meltdown/ sensory overload ). If any person is bullied and rejected for a long time due to one's apparent differences/ disabilities (autistics are bullied more because of their minority status ) then one may either become depressed, commit suicide or attack the perpetrator ( in a few cases).
So, it is rather the fault of the bullies and perpetrators who drive an autistic child or an autistic young adult to such a tragic end.
In cases of crimes like rape and other forms of gender based violence, if the incident of rape goes unreported and the situation takes such a turn that - suppose if after a few days of the crime, the rape victim kills the rapist, then will they brand the rape victims as murderers and the rapist will be a martyr ? I know that this is not an appropriate analogy but I feel that the same goes with the case of crimes committed by the autistic people - one has to know who or what drove a autistic teenager to commit crime ( although crime of any kind cannot be supported, either by the victim or the perpetrator ) ? Is the society doing something wrong because of which the sensory overload problem as well as crime related to depression is increasing among the autistic people ? Just a thought.

S

Kmarie Audrey said...

I cant speak for male aspies but I have never heard of it in a women aspie to go violent.

I do think that ur theory could apply to anybody with any difference...not just aspergers but that makes sense that bullying and childhood play a huge part in creating more violence later...
I do believe that society IS creating some of this with our video games, our violence worship, our lack of therapy, our worship of extroverts and perfection. and stigmas on differences...it IS a societal problem unfortunately.
Thanks for your thoughts and perspective...

S said...

Thank you Kmarie for your feedback. I was trying to understand the issues and problems faced by the Aspies...as I believe that I too may have many aspie traits.
I too faced many issues regarding bullying and testing of one's level of patience and tolerance ...and I wondered why I could not tolerate or laugh off easily while other people simply brushed off certain issues...why I took everything too seriously ...
Although I never resorted to violence, I can understand why some aspies may resort to violence under certain circumstances...but then again, as you have said, that may be an individual issue and not an aspie trait...

I also agree with you and I too think that aspie women turn inwards (rather than turning outwards) when faced with problems / bullying...i.e. they will self harm, feel intense remorse and sadness or feel guilty rather than resort to violence.
about aspie men, I have no idea...
Take care,

Kmarie Audrey said...

I think it was a great conversation! I also think you have many of the traits...I still need to send you Aspergirls! Next time I send a package remind me! I can understand that history and I am sorry you had to go through it...I can understand that too. Yes women tend to turn inward in most cases:) Which is both good and bad...our whole culture needs to learn about Kiersey personalities, cognitive therapy and handling emotions and boundaries through out our school years to make this a better place...
My son is an aspie and he does have more strong outward bursts of emotion...sometimes it IS hard but on the flip side he is the sweetest child with such a pure heart...he just hasn't learned how to handle that and we must tread very carefully with him as he internalizes all criticism or anything hard...more than others...