tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post4914765618330527162..comments2024-03-19T09:42:45.476-07:00Comments on The World We Create: INFJ: The Magic, The Oddness,The Door Slam, And the Dark CharmUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-25808702741218735922019-06-29T12:19:46.875-07:002019-06-29T12:19:46.875-07:00Melissa; You are welcome- I’m so glad it resonated...Melissa; You are welcome- I’m so glad it resonated deeply. I hope you feel validated in whom you are and work your natural magic out into the world ;) Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-4311767831435399982019-06-28T21:10:57.588-07:002019-06-28T21:10:57.588-07:00Reading your article was like reading the words in...Reading your article was like reading the words in my head. Thank you for writing it down so beautifully. MelissaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-13504161021681944052018-06-25T21:00:01.988-07:002018-06-25T21:00:01.988-07:00Jackuie;
Thanks 😊Glad it resonated for you! Jackuie;<br />Thanks 😊Glad it resonated for you! Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-31081343331129754362018-06-20T19:28:33.788-07:002018-06-20T19:28:33.788-07:00Wow...wow...wow... nailed it. :)
Wow...wow...wow... nailed it. :)<br />Jacquie Gonzalezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03854378522025773230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-47364546444340482512018-06-08T23:26:40.342-07:002018-06-08T23:26:40.342-07:00Yourotherfromadifferent mother;
Lol honestly at f...Yourotherfromadifferent mother; <br />Lol honestly at first I wasn't sure how to take your comment - I found it in my spam folder. But I re read it and laughed because I think I'm understanding your sentiments a bit...<br />I get what you mean how you could feel that you understand me more than people you've met or known for decades because sadly most people do not understand themselves thus they don't share much that is insightful or clarifying about their essence. I know I can communicate effectively aspects of myself that are the tip of the iceberg really but also give interesting information to the reader that is also partially a reflection of Being. Thank you for acknowledging that and by seeing the kinship in yourself, I hope that you also find others who can read this and feel kinship to you as well;) <br />Yes, I am a stronger INFJ type compared to most because of certain factors. True;) you seem to have an excellent knowledge of astronomy- thanks for sharing that info. I have read a detailed birth chart before and I like your approach to Meyers Briggs and astronomy!;) I hope you continue to find kinship in your research and other " weirdos" lol 😂 Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-72009728458400390292018-06-02T14:43:26.805-07:002018-06-02T14:43:26.805-07:00Dear fellow 'weirdo',
In typical INFJ fas...Dear fellow 'weirdo',<br /><br />In typical INFJ fashion, I read, analyzed, and absorbed everything you had to say. I now know and understand you better than most people I've 'known' for decades. Obviously, you and I have never actually met, but there is definitely a kinship that does exist with a few minor differences.<br /><br />You mentioned that your sun sign is Scorpio (a naturally introverted and complex planet in and of itself). Are you aware of other planetary positions within your birth chart? I would wager a guess that you have planetary positions in Aquarius, and have other water elements (Scorpio, Pisces, or Cancer--all emotional planets) within your chart that make you a strong INFJ personality type.<br /><br />And did you know that your children (at the least one of them) have inherited many of your astrological elements as well? <br /><br />Your husband is a Gemini, and you're right about surface incompatibility, Gemini and Scorpio oppose each other on the karmic wheel. But the planets within each person's chart are actually stronger than the sun sign, and there's a strong possibility that your and your husband's planets are complimentary to one another. There are ways to compare and examine your astrological compatibility, if you have the interest in doing so.<br /><br />All of these 'moving parts' lend to the complexity of a person. And understanding your and your loved one's birth-given personality is crucial for relating to one another in positive, healthy ways. <br /><br />Please consider it in this way: astrology (the ancient study of psychology) is the *equation*, while the Meyers-Briggs personality profile is the *sum*. There is no disputing that one is born under a given order of planetary positions, each person is therefore 'hardwired' with a sequence of personality traits (in a similar fashion to the genome). That is why Meyers-Briggs is adamant that if the test questions are answered honestly, one's score / results will *not* change within one's lifetime.<br /><br />If you'd be interested in learning more, please email me privately at my encrypted email address.<br /><br />☺Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-82218350473169477262018-05-09T14:05:27.272-07:002018-05-09T14:05:27.272-07:00Hi:)
You are welcome. That realization is a huge ...Hi:) <br />You are welcome. That realization is a huge first step into future clarity, self growth and healing. Plus manifesting life in a way that matters to you specifically. I am glad that this article made you smile:) And yes, the Greatest Showman was amazing. I think I saw it in theatres 5 times. Lol. Loved it on the big screen. <br />I am sorry to hear about the font. Although some people have had a tougher time with it, I am too lazy to start changing it but may try to in the future. Until then, you can go to reader mode on web pages that are tougher to read and it will show you typical type writing font with white background. ... I often have to do this when reading certain blogs and especially when reading black background with white font ( gets me every time! Makes me dizzy!:) I will keep that in mind:)<br />Thank you for our comment and good luck exploring more of your delightful and complex INFJ persona!:) Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-74385382778328972022018-05-08T22:50:03.352-07:002018-05-08T22:50:03.352-07:00Hi Kmarie,
Thank you so much for sharing this. Alt...Hi Kmarie,<br />Thank you so much for sharing this. Although I've known myself to be INFJ for quite a while now, I never really applied myself, mainly because I didn't realize there was anything to apply! I just figured I was weird, no one understands, and while people tell me all their problems I do not have an equivalent for myself. Lately it's been painfully clear and I finally have a grasp on the gravity of being an INFJ - and the responsibilities that come along with it. I had a smile on my face the entire time reading this article. <br />P.S. LOVE The Greatest Showman!<br />P.S.S. Totally minor but the font kept throwing me off, all the tall letters look like "f"s to me :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-43421520405946378172018-02-03T19:06:08.179-08:002018-02-03T19:06:08.179-08:00oh Dear Anonymous- I did not realize I did not res...oh Dear Anonymous- I did not realize I did not respond to your comment. THANK YOU for saying it was breathtaking. I immediately liked you. LOL. Just joking but thank you for appreciating the wisdom of the many contributors to this piece and of personality studies in general:) Sorry it took so long, while this post gets multiple hundreds of hits per day, the rest of my blog does not (much to my happiness as a private person) so I often forget about checking back here unless I do upon a fresh comment...but I tend to conveniently forget about this hotspot piece:) It's a little disconcerting to see it's hits...but I leave it up because I have heard so many have been helped and my INFJ soul can not resist keeping well received help out in the world:) Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-33037679242557129692018-02-03T19:02:52.010-08:002018-02-03T19:02:52.010-08:00Olivia M.: Hello Fellow INFJ. Thanks for adding yo...Olivia M.: Hello Fellow INFJ. Thanks for adding your personal thoughts to the doorslam. The post was enhanced some more by your personal take on it:) As it most often is when others chime in with authenticity, kindness and wisdom. Yes, there is always a time for boundaries:) Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-80265279041993896822018-02-03T17:03:44.163-08:002018-02-03T17:03:44.163-08:00As an INFJ myself, no one can blame you for shutti...As an INFJ myself, no one can blame you for shutting toxic, manipulative influences outta your life. It's more than a coping mechanism; it's self-care and entirely defensive. For me, it's the absolute last resort; I'm a big believer in second chances. But if it comes to tenth... twelfth... twentieth... and they just don't let up with the abuse, I just put my foot down. Enough is enough. There is a time for everything, including a time for letting go. Just my personal thoughts on the door slam. <br />--Olivia M.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-83444863025703842532017-12-12T00:16:48.431-08:002017-12-12T00:16:48.431-08:00This was a breathtaking one. Thank you.This was a breathtaking one. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-45267936178039071522017-09-02T17:25:39.604-07:002017-09-02T17:25:39.604-07:00Thanks Miguel. That is a great choice of song...Th...Thanks Miguel. That is a great choice of song...Thanks for the suggestion:)Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-69012655871470428132017-03-05T12:13:12.024-08:002017-03-05T12:13:12.024-08:00PS for anyone listening to personality hacker - th...PS for anyone listening to personality hacker - the podcasts are free. You do not need to pay to listen to their podcasts or access videos so enjoy:) Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-50298837926350169632017-03-05T11:29:39.435-08:002017-03-05T11:29:39.435-08:00Hello Retro Specs:
I actually do not personally kn...Hello Retro Specs:<br />I actually do not personally know any INFj males myself which is uncanny to me but you are rarer then even the rare INFJ female....I do know of many in literature, film, music, celebrities and such and yes, there def is a neutral gender quality to them...then again, there is with female INFJs too in the sense that we can seem pansexual. From the Male INFJ tube casts I have watched- most tend to have a smaller, frail looking, more elven look to their facer- and we all tend to be on the pale end even if we have olive skin tone like i do...but those are generalities that are observed and not always the case:) Owning whom one is - is always a good life mantra and makes for easier life overall. Especially in INFJ's whom need to own and honour their intuitive gut- and the more we do this- the better we become at managing life and helping others manage their own. <br /><br />A lot of introverted thinking time is key. You may find all the podcasts on personality hacker helpful...not just the ones on INFJ but the ones on personality growth ( once you understand your car model) and the ones on partnership, cognitive function types together, ect. I listen to them regularly and they help immensely. <br /><br />Many INFJs struggle to know themselves and thus others - until they find out they are an INFJ and what that means. This puts a lot of perspective and understanding into place which in turn gives meaning and fulfilment to their lives. It is because they are so often the rare ones in general circles and have such a deep inner life, that their depth of feeling and contradictory beliefs and natures can be confusing...<br /><br />Im sorry for your traumatic situation. Glad you are enforcing boundaries which are integral to our lives. Hope you can find healthier ones in the future and again- personality hacker has some great podcasts on this on understanding other types. I have listened to every single one and the enlightenment has enhanced my greater perspective taking. <br /><br />I am glad this post resonated:)Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-6375991791498373722017-03-04T16:20:08.194-08:002017-03-04T16:20:08.194-08:00Hello Kmarie,
Just wanted to thank you for this a...Hello Kmarie,<br /><br />Just wanted to thank you for this article, I had to smile the whole way through as I read. I am one of those "rare" male INFJs, amd have spent my life feeling out of place. I've gotten used to how people are astounded by me, but almost as often take advantage before they or I even know it. Even worse, I rarely even understand myself. I've had to take the Meyer-Briggs test several times in the past but generally thought little of what "INFJ" truly meant. Now that I am reading articles and seeing pins and such, I realize there ARE people who understand. I woke up to this a month ago after getting out of a very traumatic situation. <br /><br />I performed a very big and emotional - but externally cold and calculated - Door Slam, (before I'd known what it was actually called) on my own wife. And I feel terrible, except that it was absolutely necessary. I had fallen into marrying a person that could be called a Narcissistic Sociopath. After seven years of progressive emotional and physical abuse, all coming from her side, I was a wreck. Taking on her emotions, and defending her actions to her own family. I gave her chance after chance to change and get help, showing her how even I was spiraling into insanity. By the New Year 2017 I began the planning stages of suicide. That is, until my closest friend, an INFP himself, helped me through it and explained that I was under a spell, and didn't know it. This enraged her and she attempted to not only take my friend out of my life, but also attacked both his job and marriage. That was too much. Once I had a clear head, took back my real personality - slam.<br /><br />It hurt. A LOT. I grieved as though I were at her funeral. And really, I wasn't even sure how I did it. How I went from an emotional, depressed wreck to a confident, happy person in a matter of two weeks. Now life is picking up and improving at an alarming pace, and I found a way to fast track my dreams of writing a sci-fi/fantasy novel series for teens - even met someone in the publishing industry by accident just two weeks ago!<br /><br />Seems that the INFJ traits in my life resurfaced rather quickly. A stranger came up to me for some small talk earlier, and on a whim I asked him "why are you feeling conflicted right now?" with no outward indication of it. He was very surprised, but proceeded to tell me his troubles. Much of it was environment related, and he cheered up when I told him that a pleasant, warm rain shower is coming in 2-3 days. After that, I stopped and realized - this is all true! I... kind of AM "magic".<br /><br />Thank you for writing this, and for the links to other articles, it has helped to confirm my identity. One thing I wondered, do you know much about the traits and stereotypes associated with male INFJs? I'm getting a hint that some of us are considered sensitive, and even "effeminate". I didn't think I was, but looking back, I've been mocked most of my life for these very traits.<br /><br />I know I'm a guy through and through, but in my mind I'm kind of... neutral, and I suppose it comes out in interests and body language without me realizing it (It doesn't help that I also seem to have a physical paradox; people notice that I'm small, pale, perhaps a little frail looking. The they double take when I finally speak, with a deep baritone voice. Often cimplete strangers immitate me to my face and laugh, out of surprise I suppose). Have you heard of or seen this before with INFJ guys? I think it's time I stop being insecure about it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09779829378516407308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-59038510334343144312017-02-23T11:09:37.553-08:002017-02-23T11:09:37.553-08:00Hello Fellow INFJ Annon:
I do check this page as ...Hello Fellow INFJ Annon:<br /><br />I do check this page as its my highest hit page. People seem to really like it...I think it's the combination of other InFJ wisdom incorporated into my own inner experiences. I am so glad to hear you found encouragement and inspiration within the article. Thank you for your expression:) <br />I am glad it could possibly enable understanding on your journey. Understanding is the key to both peace, and harmony in relationships. Please click on the additional links as I think they will help you further :) <br />Thanks again!:) <br />Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-41250105639510824982017-02-23T09:57:07.799-08:002017-02-23T09:57:07.799-08:00I recently took the test and found myself to be an...I recently took the test and found myself to be an INFJ personality and the random web surfings about INFJs started. Little did I expect that I'd comment on your page (I'hv never ever commented on any blog, for that matter). But now, I check the date you'hv posted it and it's already been a year and I don't know even if you'll ever read it. But that does'nt matter. I just want to express that, I felt, every word you'hv used, describe my personality more apt than any other web page, i'hv encountered, though it's not all of it and that's probably because you are one in the club too. Thank you for this article, which I can finally send to my friends to help them atleast scratch the surface in getting to know me. Best wishes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-16074671462909213622016-07-29T22:00:42.003-07:002016-07-29T22:00:42.003-07:00Dear anonymous; this is what I adore about persona...Dear anonymous; this is what I adore about personality! When the results are accurate and confirm a place of belonging, understanding and acceptance in someone. Yay! I am glad you enjoyed the article and I hope you continue to find places in which you feel you belong while still embracing your unique and rare persona✨Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-48711815162804911672016-07-29T08:45:12.882-07:002016-07-29T08:45:12.882-07:00Your article is absolutely amazing. As an INFJ mys...Your article is absolutely amazing. As an INFJ myself I felt like I didn't fit in for a very long time. But as I learnt to know myself, I learnt to love myself and the incredible gifts we have been given. Thanks for making me feel like I do belong, in my own way :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-40040200157636584402016-02-20T10:11:14.705-08:002016-02-20T10:11:14.705-08:00Ashe: I LOVED that site! Once I learned how to nav...Ashe: I LOVED that site! Once I learned how to navigate it! Its an awesome site!:) Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-11047594885933707372016-02-17T23:10:57.294-08:002016-02-17T23:10:57.294-08:00Ooo, I found a funny link and must share with you!...Ooo, I found a funny link and must share with you!<br /><br />oddlydevelopedtypes.com<br /><br />Particularly the Post-Apocalyptic Survival Guides where they have amusing short stories how type stereotypes might survive world chaos. Might want to make sure the INTJ one is safe for the son to read as it can get all sorts of twisted gears a turnin' in our warped little minds. Robot armies and world domination and whatnot. ;)<br /><br /><br />Sorry I didn't reply sooner. Crazy day job in full swing right now. Always a pleasure to make people laugh! I hope to make you grin for quite a while.Ashehttp://www.raven-wing.net/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-90999803218783532752016-01-27T22:14:24.964-08:002016-01-27T22:14:24.964-08:00Ashe: I completely agree! 16 is the best place fo...Ashe: I completely agree! 16 is the best place for the test and Keirsey has excellent explanations and a great book!<br />Thanks - lol- I am honoured that you think I put out a counsellor vibe...my friends offline tend to say that too so I guess its a thing for me:)<br />And thank you also for your statement on moodiness...I LOVE your thoughts on emotions and evaluation...its true that inflexibility is not optimal either! I also like to fantasize about various creative theories...Lol yea the oncoming traffic may not be a place to do this!:)<br /><br />Too funny- my son is an INTJ and def is not like me in the sense of higher empathy...I agree with your statement...but I am also glad to share the world with INTJS as there is a lot they/you can master, think and organize or do...you are rare too! I find balanced INTJs like any balanced personality still deliver their message in appropriate ways and I think you have a very balanced being...I also find it interesting that you were so close in those 2 numbers as my son was too... LOl. I like your description...quite accurate and humorous!:) Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-79714248466696399502016-01-27T20:00:49.678-08:002016-01-27T20:00:49.678-08:0016Personalities.com is my favorite place to take t...16Personalities.com is my favorite place to take the temperament test! But Keirsey has some of my favorite descriptions. It was my first one to take too.<br /><br />INFJ suits you rather well. The Counselor. You do put off a pretty good counselor vibe.<br /><br />I wouldn't use moody or whimsical/wishy-washy to describe you, or at least, not in a negative way. To me, being moody or alternating between neutral and emotional means that you're still in an exploring and testing stage with whatever the subject is, while a calm and steady emotion means you've reached a decision on the matter. I find it useful to use all the emotions to properly evaluate a thing. If you remain static and inflexible throughout the whole process, has a solid decision really been reached? And if you never reach a decision, well, everybody needs a good think toy to play with! (Fantasizing about various creation theories is my favorite think toy.) Not counting serious and fast situations like dodging an oncoming car. In such situations it is perfectly acceptable to have just one emotion and get the heck out of the way! Deliberating about it will just turn you into a hood ornament. :P<br /><br />I used to be an INFJ, but I am an INTJ-A (the Mastermind) these days, although the T usually scores low to where it could be potentially interchangeable with the F. I've certainly kept that Door Slam thing! I believe the key difference between an INFJ and INTJ in that respect is that an INFJ will still try to spare a person's feelings to some degree due to their level of empathy. An INTJ may very well enjoy slamming a person's head in the door a few times, along with determining the most effective angle to do so, before cutting them off permanently because that would be the most efficient way to prevent a relapse in socializing with them in the future. It's a shame INFJs are rare, but probably a good thing INTJs are! :DAshe Skylerhttp://www.raven-wing.net/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-6075510496011074832016-01-22T23:39:19.504-08:002016-01-22T23:39:19.504-08:00Nysa; yes we are connected on so many weird, rare ...Nysa; yes we are connected on so many weird, rare levels!;) you are the only close friend I have who is a fellow INFJ. I find it immensely refreshing that you tend to understand where I am coming from on all levels. I love our unique connection and understanding!:)Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.com