tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post7980351102961521362..comments2024-03-19T09:42:45.476-07:00Comments on The World We Create: Life as Music and Comfort During Grief, The Death of My Aunt, Pancreatic Cancer, Wishes for My Cousin, and Kacey Musgraves' "The Golden Hour."Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-39731556441856991162018-04-11T09:58:37.603-07:002018-04-11T09:58:37.603-07:00Hey Steph:)
What a pleasant surprise to find part...Hey Steph:) <br />What a pleasant surprise to find part of your beauty on here :) I deeply appreciate your thoughts. Thank you for your kind words. I hear that a baby is on the way for you!!! CONGRATS! I will never forget when I was 6mo pregnant and you said you hoped you would look as stylish as me when pregnant- and I KNEW without a doubt you would be a stunning preggers! You are going to rock at being a mom. It's one of my favourite life roles (although it didnt start out that way for me) but now I ADORE it and I know you will too. I got a little caught up in the fact of seeing your familiar name and the lovely thoughts and memories that went along with that...lol...but now re reading your comment- yes, my aunt was a beautiful person. I especially feel for those more directly involved like her daughter, sister and mom...but it was also a loss because she was so much more than an aunt sometimes. I know what it's like, from my hubby losing his mom, in a way to experience second hand debilitating grief...and I hope for all involved that it has moments too of healing. I do appreciate you stopping by:) And I love that we have reconnected via another media forum. I look forward to a bit more interaction in the future and resuming our friendship so to speak. Seriously was on a high all day!:) <br />xo<br />KKmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-40990162022735919582018-04-09T14:14:33.386-07:002018-04-09T14:14:33.386-07:00I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your aunti...I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your auntie. What a beautiful tribute to her. I'm thinking of you and your family during this time of grieving and healing. <br /><br />StephStephanie Steeveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07333394305682323977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-44284255300995269092018-04-07T09:39:02.339-07:002018-04-07T09:39:02.339-07:00S: Thank you. I am sorry that your aunt is struggl...S: Thank you. I am sorry that your aunt is struggling. She sounds like a beautiful person. Yes, the relationship does change. I had a few phases with my aunt and the earliest is my most treasured, yet she was still a beautiful person. Things do change. That is sweet that you do that...Yes, I do feel that. I tried to be there on the phone when I could, or send money if I could afford it or gifts, or a kind email...but other times I just try to honour people by living my best life with my children and husband if I cant do anything... YES- being grateful is huge... I do understand what you are saying. Yes, I hear I was super sweet and innocent, and old soul with a little bit of fiery spunk. <br />Thank you very much for your words xoxxoxoKmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-24678988785874102942018-04-05T12:10:50.370-07:002018-04-05T12:10:50.370-07:00I feel every word of yours... I also have an aunt...I feel every word of yours... I also have an aunt and have many strikingly similar connection with my aunt. I spent my childhood years with my aunt in her home. I stayed with my aunt ( instead of my mom ) during my school days because there was good educational facilities in the town where my aunt lived. A few days ago, she has been hospitalized and is now struggling with heart issues. Many memories kept flooding and triggering me. The relationship however changed over the years, although love never changed. I have this urge to make her happy again but then I am not sure how. Things have changed so much. I just silently pray for her well being and am grateful for those fond memories of childhood. Inside me, there is a tremendous urge of "doing" something to make things like they were once before. Do you feel the same too, and if yes, what do you do ? But most importantly, do you think that we can really "do" something or do you think that being grateful is all we can do rather than putting more effort to make somebody happy. Hope you are getting what I am trying to say.<br />I am fortunate to have a glimpse of your childhood photos. you were so sweet and innocent ! <br />May your aunt's soul rest in peace.Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17363854783134050594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-2124353982634259742018-04-01T12:20:45.139-07:002018-04-01T12:20:45.139-07:00C2Q: Wise words. Thanks love. xo
Sn: I wrote a po...C2Q: Wise words. Thanks love. xo<br />Sn: I wrote a post because its how I process but I was worried it was too fresh for people closer to the situation to read thus I sent warnings but gave it for later cuz it has pictures. I want to be sensitive to the journey of others while still honouring mine. Yes, she always made it clear how very special I was to her, and my children like her grandchildren and husband like another son. That was very precious. My heart goes out to Jess, Grandma and you especially. Losing an only sister, a mother and best friend, and a daughter is a different sort of grief. I hope you can also remember how special you were and that you carry her in your heart when it gets to be overwhelming. That before she got sick she was an avid lover of all things good in life and would also want you to enjoy that once your initial shock and deep grief is journeyed through. Words are not sufficient for your loss. Xo<br />AnaL; I am glad you loved it. Awww yea mixed emotions. I'm sorry for your sleep and also loss. You are a very sweet hearted person. She absolutely adored u and thought u were gorgeous. she told me. xoxo<br />Grandma: The biggest loss in the world is losing a child. Even more than a mother though that is the next terrible thing along with spouse. I hate that you had to live nine months watching and helping her in her agony in your “golden years” If I can pass on any of my grace it would be to you, mom and Jess. Grief can not be compared really, but there are people closer to the situation that carry the deepest war wounds. I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you found it beautiful. Love you too.<br />A.N.- We have different stages in life and my first 14 years were heavily shaped by her...along with a few of the early years of my children's lives. Yes, we were closer and when I reflect back there are so many good memories. That is ok, you are where you need to be for the people who are more directly affected. That is important. I can deal and I truly feel that while my emotions are legitimate ( and thank you for validating it- had me teary) I KNOW that my grief is not the same and does not require the same amount of support. You are where you need to be. But thanks for the support.<br />We had a lovely time catching the show one more time in theatres! I am glad you guys could go too and get a break from life. Art and music really are healing. <br />Thank you for your thoughts. Yes this weekend is tougher due to the death anniversary of mom and the affect especially on the children and husband. I didnt have to go through this much loss at their ages. I feel for that. They are worried every March or ever 2 years in Spring they will have to deal with a loss. That is hard to compute at younger ages...but they are doing well in general and thank you so much for your thoughts. That is deeply appreciated. xoxoKmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-58458048692737892162018-04-01T11:44:49.417-07:002018-04-01T11:44:49.417-07:00This is a really lovely post about Aunty Donna. It...This is a really lovely post about Aunty Donna. It never really clued in for me about all that time before I was born that you had with her and how close you guys are. I’m sorry that this is hard for you too and that because we’re trying to offer love and support to others who are more directly affected like everyone here, what we’re going through can get glazed over. <br />I’m glad you guys were able to have a nice time out at Greatest Showman yesterday. Know I’m thinking of all of you because you have 2 wonderful women on your minds this weekend. ( your mother in law and auntie Donna)<br /><br />💕 A.N.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-37813536064025182172018-04-01T09:26:02.079-07:002018-04-01T09:26:02.079-07:00I read it and it's beautiful!! Thankyou love u...I read it and it's beautiful!! Thankyou love u - GRandma TAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-29164844168083341212018-04-01T09:24:58.084-07:002018-04-01T09:24:58.084-07:00I love your email.Made me cry.
Last night I can...I love your email.Made me cry.<br />Last night I can't sleep here at work keep closing my eyes but all I can see is her face smiling at me.I read every single word you wrote on that.And looking on all the pictures.I have mixed emotions - AnaL.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-62263889362425824502018-04-01T01:34:07.465-07:002018-04-01T01:34:07.465-07:00What a beautiful tribute to Auntie Donna and to Je...What a beautiful tribute to Auntie Donna and to Jess! Thank you for sharing your stories and your pictures, She is forever loved, never forgotten. She loved you, the love of your life and your children so much. She treasured every moment she ever had with you. Thank you for your beautiful words of love. ❤️snhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02649952030307897199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-76126286692532338992018-03-31T16:37:20.761-07:002018-03-31T16:37:20.761-07:00When the memories pour in, worse the pain gets. Wh...When the memories pour in, worse the pain gets. When you let them flow through you, by writing or sharing, it helps relieve the pain. The ache seems to never leave but it is an ache that the body and mind can build upon. Thanks for sharing.calledtoquestionnoreply@blogger.com