tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post2731971778895123078..comments2024-03-19T09:42:45.476-07:00Comments on The World We Create: Explaining the phrase; "INFJ; If I Cut you Off- Chances Are You Handed Me the Scissors." A Blog Post on INFJ Boundaries/ Fairness/ Accessibility and Relationships .Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-9348764900733182412018-05-09T22:15:22.041-07:002018-05-09T22:15:22.041-07:00A: I am glad the top 10 list is spot on. Yes, as w...A: I am glad the top 10 list is spot on. Yes, as we grow we learn what isnt ours to hold. Yes those make sense for being high on the list:) <br />No problem:) Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-14843229779874627662018-03-29T10:24:44.783-07:002018-03-29T10:24:44.783-07:00This top 10 list is so spot on. I used to push mys...This top 10 list is so spot on. I used to push myself past the desire to cut off people, but as I have grown, I allow myself to cut them off. Lol! Boundary bashers and dramatic/energy sucking people are top on my list. People who demand more than I can give, are also high on the list.<br /> <br />Thank you for writing this out, K.. it’s so helpful.- AAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-30268083991575988472018-03-27T14:38:23.289-07:002018-03-27T14:38:23.289-07:00Amy: Thank you! I am so glad it resonated do deepl...Amy: Thank you! I am so glad it resonated do deeply! <br />xo<br />Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-16055319727716404482018-03-27T14:20:49.444-07:002018-03-27T14:20:49.444-07:00This blog post is sooooooooooooooooooooooooo off t...This blog post is sooooooooooooooooooooooooo off the charts GOOD!!! I resonate so deeply, K!<br /> <br />Xoxoxoxoxo Thank you for your heart and all you share so beautifully.<br /> <br />Amy<br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-90665833989382876342018-03-23T10:05:31.813-07:002018-03-23T10:05:31.813-07:00Also for any INFP's or Mistyped INFJ's as ...Also for any INFP's or Mistyped INFJ's as INFP"S- Taken from here:https://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2016/11/how-mistypes-have-warped-the-descriptions-of-each-intuitive-mbti-type/<br /><br />"Because INFPs and ISFPs are introverted feeling dominant types, they are incredibly emotionally intense, and experience their feelings on a deeply personal level. On the flip side, the INFJ is an auxiliary extroverted feeler, which means they are significantly more detached from their emotions than their IxFP counterparts. But because INFPs and ISFPs identify with the INFJ in an overwhelming frequency, we are constantly seeing incorrect stereotypes develop about how emotional the INFJ type is.<br /><br />In reality, the INFJ is much more giving than they are emotional. The INFJ feels an almost compulsive need to give back to their loved ones and/or society in a meaningful way, but they are not tortured by their personal experience of emotions the way IxFP types are. In fact, INFJs tend to be highly adept at separating themselves from their emotions when need be, as they are intuitive dominant types first and feelers second.<br /><br />Additionally, INFJs are very pragmatic long-term planners, unlike the INFPs, who are idealistic long-term planners. While the INFJ uses introverted intuition to attempt to predict what definitely will happen in the future, the INFP uses extroverted intuition to envision multiple various scenarios surrounding what could happen, preferring the exploration of these ideas much more than the execution of them.<br /><br />While the INFP is wildly imaginative and speculative, the INFJ is significantly more grounded in reality – they want to know the future, whereas the INFP wants to invent it.<br /><br />However, because so many INFPs identify as INFJs, it perpetuates the stereotype that INFJs are idealistic dreamers. While the INFJ does often get lost in their thoughts, their thoughts do not mirror the imaginative fantasies of the INFP type – they are more often considering how various courses of events are likely to play out, in an attempt to narrow down which one is most likely to happen and how they ought to plan for it accordingly.<br /><br />Because so many IxFP types misidentify as INFJs, INFJs often develop a reputation for being incredibly emotional dreamers – when in reality, they’re much more intellectual and discerning than they are emotional and imaginative.<br /><br />*Note: There are also a significant number of ISFJs who are mistyped as INFJs."Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-322150308940972422018-03-19T09:04:16.974-07:002018-03-19T09:04:16.974-07:00S: I am glad you could relate...Yes it can be toug...S: I am glad you could relate...Yes it can be tough but it is important to clarify space.<br />I think there is a difference though in sticking it out. My husband and bestie say I have a way higher tolerance than them for other peoples issues, problems and conflict. I dont love conflict. But I am pretty good at navigating it. I give A LOT to those I care about deeply or feel are important in my life...<br />However, with some extended relatives that there is just toxicity like in some people...yes then I just use distance if there are no grounds for understanding. <br />Most people just refute or make it worse when given explanations...Very true.<br />Yes INFJ and INFPs are often quite happy being on there own for long periods. <br />Wow, you are very kind and brave to have your mother in law with you but I agree that it could teach compassion and co existence...:) <br />Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-31009789537597726072018-03-18T05:41:44.286-07:002018-03-18T05:41:44.286-07:00This post describes me in totality and posts like ...This post describes me in totality and posts like these make me wonder if there is any difference between INFP and INFJ, when it comes to defining or ending relationships. Just like you, I also silently withdraw rather than explain what happened or what went wrong in relationships. Over the years, I had to cut off from my closest relatives and friends and I did not really know why things were falling apart in the beginning. Actually, my personality is such that I tend to take things "seriously" in relationships and it is all black or all white ...no middle ground for me. Diplomacy is not my nature. I take a step back when relationships start getting complicated. I am a simple person with straightforward needs and when stuffs start getting complicated, I run away. How can I explain myself when we feel so differently (being a person of high sensitivity or an NF or aspie or introvert ) ? So explanations or "clearing up the air" never worked for me. Also, I figured out that I do not actually need friends or support as I am pretty happy being myself, all alone. With too many relationships, comes too many baggages, pain and a sense of overwhelm ( specially if you have chronic illness thrown in ). I need space to breathe and I love silence. After the death of my father-in-law, my mother-in-law is now coming to stay with us for half of the year( i.e. for six months). Our temperaments are very different. So, it will be a new chapter in my life, trying to co-exist with someone who is very different from me (unlike my husband, whose nature is similar to me). Anyways, I guess life will teach me new lessons, of compassion and co-existence , even if I have been running away from people since my childhood years,( particularly when things get complicated) :):)Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17363854783134050594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-51665625103885869592018-03-15T21:02:06.848-07:002018-03-15T21:02:06.848-07:00Wow 😳 that's a little depressing 😂Thanks hon...Wow 😳 that's a little depressing 😂Thanks hon I think? I'm glad you love me though... lol I don't know whether to be flattered that you compared me to one of your favourite characters or slightly terrified that my natural state could give off that vibe to the one who knows me most. Lol yikes. At the same time, I'm glad u are a sucker for me and apparently find my ways dramatic and amusing. Guess we are right for each other ♥️Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2971383103866151443.post-91449952245949697332018-03-15T19:41:24.207-07:002018-03-15T19:41:24.207-07:00Wow! Wonderful post. I am a sucker for INFJ's,...Wow! Wonderful post. I am a sucker for INFJ's, especially you. You are like lady Galadriel "I shall not be dark, but beautiful and terrible as the Morning and the Night! Fair as the Sea and the Sun and the Snow upon the Mountain! Dreadful as the Storm and the Lightning! Stronger than the foundations of the earth. All shall love me and despair!" INFJ to "T" 😉Called to Questionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17784555223351502742noreply@blogger.com